Venera: omg. That's all I got to say. Newada: well everything that you are saying is great in theory, but it can't be completely applied. The fact is, most of people are visual types. Everybody loves to watch and grasp sth beautiful. But what I think that main problem in America is, you ppl are trying to find another half od dating sites. Wtf? Go out, mingle, go in caffes,etc. You ppl know only how to work.
Anonymous, oh where to begin.... first, if by "you people" you mean Americans let's make one thing clear... dating sites are not exclusive to the United States of America. I think we've all learned from history that anyone who generalizes in such a way clearly has a very limited scope on life. Second, obviously you have never been to America or if you have you must have been blind while here, because if you had eyes you would see that we are humans first and foremost and thus we are all the same. Americans aren't trying to do anything that others aren't already doing or trying to do around the world. Americans always get the spotlight because we sit at the helm of powerful nations, but we are not the only ones. I sense a great deal of bitterness and ignorance from you. But before I digress... your suggestion is to "go out, mingle, etc." What do you think people were doing for hundreds of years before dating sites ever came about? You think socializing is a new concept? HA! Again, where are your eyes? Busy surfing the internet for any lame media fodder that bashes Americans so you can jump on the bandwagon without using your brain? Dating sites came about BECAUSE social gatherings were not working for humans. It is NOT a problem, it is a potential solution, and I hate to give you the bad news (well actually, no I don't) but it will be the future. Ever read Ray Kurzweil (or any book for that matter)?
The dating sites will only evolve. The more people find success, the more these companies will continue to improve their services. Hate it if you want... that won't stop it. You'd best accept the fact that it's not going anywhere anytime soon. They've been around for well over 10 years and they've only increased. It is true, Americans work a lot... that's about the only thing I would agree with you on. But whether you meet people online or at a bar or "cafe"... humans still have relationship problems and/or get divorced. You're wrong, the problem isn't hard working Americans, dating sites, or any of that crap... the problem is human beings, and when I say human beings I mean ALL of us. Whether you're an American, Bosnian, or Brit... we all have problems and have our own demons to deal with. Dating sites are just tools for people to use, like any other... it works about as well for the user as their knowledge of how to use that tool. Dating sites could disappear, and people still would treat each other poorly... women would be just as blind, men would be just as unfaithful, people would be just as racist and prejudiced... the solution is education. People need to be aware and awakened, but many of them prefer to sleep. It is rare that I ever find someone willing to talk about these issues calmly without personalizing things and becoming defensive. One thing that dating sites has over meeting someone in person, is that it allows you to do a proper pre-screening. NOW, depending on your experience, you'll either be really good at picking out the good ones or not so good, and I guarantee you this my friend... those people who can't pick a decent person online have the same difficulties offline and in person... again, it's not technology... it's human beings. We're one big scarred child inside an adult body needing some serious couch time with a therapist, but of course no one will admit it or seek it. Let's not forget those people out there who hate therapy and believe it never works for anyone. And so nothing will change until WE HUMAN BEINGS change.
I never said that dating sites were only used by Americans, nor did I talked with bitterness about Americans. Furthermore, I did never insult you, trust me that wasn't my intention. I agree with you that humans need to change their habits. But from where I come from, and it is Bosnia, people here use a lot less dating sites to find a loved one, and they are extremely successful in finding a partner. It's not always the perfect one, but you learn on your mistakes. What I wanted to say that trying to find a partner without the net is more so to say magical. I believe that the net takes all the charms from flirting. I have a lot of relatives who live across America, and they tell me that people there don't mingle that much like here on the Balkans, and that they are more occupied with their work.
Btw i didn't insult your opinion and your argument, so please have respect for my opinion. Thanks.
And oh, you have me on fb....it's Bojanna..lol....:)))
I know where you're from, but I didn't know whom. But furthermore, it doesn't really matter. If you're going to publicly voice your opinion then expect it to be viewed, reviewed, and addressed by yours truly as this is my blog site and I must moderate. If I didn't respect people's opinions then I wouldn't allow comments at all or I would remove them. However, I believe in having open discussions and debates and not everything said will be pretty and pristine. Most of the time I find that people talk a lot of crap without thinking or doing any research.
Now, knowing who you are. I STRONGLY suggest you get out and see the world. I know you have never been to the US or haven't spent a great deal of time here. You will find that it's not very different from where you are. There are obvious architectural and landscape differences, but as far as humans... we're the same no matter where you go with SLIGHT differences. Assholes are assholes, stupid people are stupid people, and racists are racists. People kill me when they have this segregated view of the world as if it's oh so scary of here in the big bad US. Because those American humans are a different species of humans altogether...HA! Like that time you asked me about racism here in the US, and I told you... just like anywhere else, there are certain areas you would avoid, but the major cities and metropolitan areas are very diverse usually with interracial couples and everything. I've been to several other countries around the world and it's pretty much the same. And I've dated women from around the world and they're pretty much the same lol... problems are problems... there are no Bosnian relationship problems and American relationship problems... there are only human problems.
We can't really say how many people use dating sites in your country versus the US. You're speaking from a perspective of a certain generation of a certain age in a certain area, etc. etc. As you get older, you tend to use more resources and tools if you happen to still be single. And regardless... it still does not refute my point that dating sites have not been around for forever... there was a time when no one could even fathom the concept of a dating site, and all they did was mingle and socialize. And guess what... the success and failure rates of relationships remained the same (or even increased). You know why? I guarantee you dating sites are not a factor... it's just humans. Women and men... of all races and ethnic backgrounds. Divorce rates rise because of economic hardships, changes in laws governing divorce, and other social issues that surely do not include "dating sites."
You have relatives that live in the US... you need to see it for your own eyes and come up with your own conclusions. Very rarely do you have human beings who can see things for what they truly are without biases or ego driven opinions. I'm sure LOT'S of Americans would disagree strongly with your relatives. And speaking as a man who has been through enough dating sites... most women still see it as something embarrassing and taboo! That goes to show you it's not as accepted as you think and most prefer the old fashioned way. But as I said before... it's old and it doesn't work any better than the dating sites. They each have their advantages and disadvantages. But I guarantee you the solution to women knowing what they want, or people being open to dating outside of their races is not to go out and mingle more. HA! If that were the solution then dating sites would never have been needed to begin with. I know a lot of people who have found success from using dating sites. But in my opinion it's not necessarily the dating site, but a combination of luck and the person knowing how to use that particular dating site as a tool. How is that any different from meeting someone in person? It's still a combination of luck and using your environment, situation, and knowledge of self as a tool to attract a potential life partner.
The internet does not take any charm out of "flirting." If that were the case then I would have never had any long distance relationships. You and I met through Facebook in fact! HA!
The bottom line is that I'm talking about a much larger picture than just the US and dating sites. I'm addressing an issue on a global scale that deals with ALL HUMANS and the future of the human race. Relationships are not perfect in your area otherwise every single person would be happily involved in a relationship with someone. No one has all of the answers, but I do know that the overall solution is not to abandon dating sites. They work for some people and not for others. I don't think they work for me because on paper I seem very very serious and what have you, but people who know me know me as the guy always smiling and making people laugh. But I would not abandon it as an alternative tool.
I respect your opinion, however I think it is a terribly oversimplified and naive perspective. If things were that simple then dating sites would never have come about or social networking sites, and if that happened then you and I would never have met nor any others that you may have become acquainted with through the internet who are not in an area where you can simply meet up with them for drinks or coffee. As I said before... it is the future and will not only help in terms of intimate relationships, but also in terms of global relations around the world. The trick is getting humans on the right track... a much more difficult task. How do you get humans (from ALL countries) to erase their color lines and see each other as equals? How do you get humans to erase the hate and embrace universal love? How do we get our fellow human beings to look at their own issues FIRST before blaming others for their situation?
BTW, a couple generations ago people would say that all of that socializing and "mingling" is a waste of time and you should focus on your schooling and studies and they would pick someone for you to date and marry... yeah, history repeats... you're of a generation that should embrace change not conform. Since when did your generation (and mine for that matter) become a generation of conformists?
It definitely wont work with us because ur 2 talkative. Im too slow to grasp errthin u say.LoL
ReplyDeleteVenera: omg. That's all I got to say.
ReplyDeleteNewada: well everything that you are saying is great in theory, but it can't be completely applied. The fact is, most of people are visual types. Everybody loves to watch and grasp sth beautiful. But what I think that main problem in America is, you ppl are trying to find another half od dating sites. Wtf? Go out, mingle, go in caffes,etc. You ppl know only how to work.
Anonymous, oh where to begin.... first, if by "you people" you mean Americans let's make one thing clear... dating sites are not exclusive to the United States of America. I think we've all learned from history that anyone who generalizes in such a way clearly has a very limited scope on life. Second, obviously you have never been to America or if you have you must have been blind while here, because if you had eyes you would see that we are humans first and foremost and thus we are all the same. Americans aren't trying to do anything that others aren't already doing or trying to do around the world. Americans always get the spotlight because we sit at the helm of powerful nations, but we are not the only ones. I sense a great deal of bitterness and ignorance from you. But before I digress... your suggestion is to "go out, mingle, etc." What do you think people were doing for hundreds of years before dating sites ever came about? You think socializing is a new concept? HA! Again, where are your eyes? Busy surfing the internet for any lame media fodder that bashes Americans so you can jump on the bandwagon without using your brain? Dating sites came about BECAUSE social gatherings were not working for humans. It is NOT a problem, it is a potential solution, and I hate to give you the bad news (well actually, no I don't) but it will be the future. Ever read Ray Kurzweil (or any book for that matter)?
ReplyDeleteThe dating sites will only evolve. The more people find success, the more these companies will continue to improve their services. Hate it if you want... that won't stop it. You'd best accept the fact that it's not going anywhere anytime soon. They've been around for well over 10 years and they've only increased. It is true, Americans work a lot... that's about the only thing I would agree with you on. But whether you meet people online or at a bar or "cafe"... humans still have relationship problems and/or get divorced. You're wrong, the problem isn't hard working Americans, dating sites, or any of that crap... the problem is human beings, and when I say human beings I mean ALL of us. Whether you're an American, Bosnian, or Brit... we all have problems and have our own demons to deal with. Dating sites are just tools for people to use, like any other... it works about as well for the user as their knowledge of how to use that tool. Dating sites could disappear, and people still would treat each other poorly... women would be just as blind, men would be just as unfaithful, people would be just as racist and prejudiced... the solution is education. People need to be aware and awakened, but many of them prefer to sleep. It is rare that I ever find someone willing to talk about these issues calmly without personalizing things and becoming defensive. One thing that dating sites has over meeting someone in person, is that it allows you to do a proper pre-screening. NOW, depending on your experience, you'll either be really good at picking out the good ones or not so good, and I guarantee you this my friend... those people who can't pick a decent person online have the same difficulties offline and in person... again, it's not technology... it's human beings. We're one big scarred child inside an adult body needing some serious couch time with a therapist, but of course no one will admit it or seek it. Let's not forget those people out there who hate therapy and believe it never works for anyone. And so nothing will change until WE HUMAN BEINGS change.
I never said that dating sites were only used by Americans, nor did I talked with bitterness about Americans. Furthermore, I did never insult you, trust me that wasn't my intention. I agree with you that humans need to change their habits. But from where I come from, and it is Bosnia, people here use a lot less dating sites to find a loved one, and they are extremely successful in finding a partner. It's not always the perfect one, but you learn on your mistakes. What I wanted to say that trying to find a partner without the net is more so to say magical. I believe that the net takes all the charms from flirting. I have a lot of relatives who live across America, and they tell me that people there don't mingle that much like here on the Balkans, and that they are more occupied with their work.
ReplyDeleteBtw i didn't insult your opinion and your argument, so please have respect for my opinion. Thanks.
And oh, you have me on fb....it's Bojanna..lol....:)))
I know where you're from, but I didn't know whom. But furthermore, it doesn't really matter. If you're going to publicly voice your opinion then expect it to be viewed, reviewed, and addressed by yours truly as this is my blog site and I must moderate. If I didn't respect people's opinions then I wouldn't allow comments at all or I would remove them. However, I believe in having open discussions and debates and not everything said will be pretty and pristine. Most of the time I find that people talk a lot of crap without thinking or doing any research.
ReplyDeleteNow, knowing who you are. I STRONGLY suggest you get out and see the world. I know you have never been to the US or haven't spent a great deal of time here. You will find that it's not very different from where you are. There are obvious architectural and landscape differences, but as far as humans... we're the same no matter where you go with SLIGHT differences. Assholes are assholes, stupid people are stupid people, and racists are racists. People kill me when they have this segregated view of the world as if it's oh so scary of here in the big bad US. Because those American humans are a different species of humans altogether...HA! Like that time you asked me about racism here in the US, and I told you... just like anywhere else, there are certain areas you would avoid, but the major cities and metropolitan areas are very diverse usually with interracial couples and everything. I've been to several other countries around the world and it's pretty much the same. And I've dated women from around the world and they're pretty much the same lol... problems are problems... there are no Bosnian relationship problems and American relationship problems... there are only human problems.
We can't really say how many people use dating sites in your country versus the US. You're speaking from a perspective of a certain generation of a certain age in a certain area, etc. etc. As you get older, you tend to use more resources and tools if you happen to still be single. And regardless... it still does not refute my point that dating sites have not been around for forever... there was a time when no one could even fathom the concept of a dating site, and all they did was mingle and socialize. And guess what... the success and failure rates of relationships remained the same (or even increased). You know why? I guarantee you dating sites are not a factor... it's just humans. Women and men... of all races and ethnic backgrounds. Divorce rates rise because of economic hardships, changes in laws governing divorce, and other social issues that surely do not include "dating sites."
You have relatives that live in the US... you need to see it for your own eyes and come up with your own conclusions. Very rarely do you have human beings who can see things for what they truly are without biases or ego driven opinions. I'm sure LOT'S of Americans would disagree strongly with your relatives. And speaking as a man who has been through enough dating sites... most women still see it as something embarrassing and taboo! That goes to show you it's not as accepted as you think and most prefer the old fashioned way. But as I said before... it's old and it doesn't work any better than the dating sites. They each have their advantages and disadvantages. But I guarantee you the solution to women knowing what they want, or people being open to dating outside of their races is not to go out and mingle more. HA! If that were the solution then dating sites would never have been needed to begin with. I know a lot of people who have found success from using dating sites. But in my opinion it's not necessarily the dating site, but a combination of luck and the person knowing how to use that particular dating site as a tool. How is that any different from meeting someone in person? It's still a combination of luck and using your environment, situation, and knowledge of self as a tool to attract a potential life partner.
ReplyDeleteThe internet does not take any charm out of "flirting." If that were the case then I would have never had any long distance relationships. You and I met through Facebook in fact! HA!
The bottom line is that I'm talking about a much larger picture than just the US and dating sites. I'm addressing an issue on a global scale that deals with ALL HUMANS and the future of the human race. Relationships are not perfect in your area otherwise every single person would be happily involved in a relationship with someone. No one has all of the answers, but I do know that the overall solution is not to abandon dating sites. They work for some people and not for others. I don't think they work for me because on paper I seem very very serious and what have you, but people who know me know me as the guy always smiling and making people laugh. But I would not abandon it as an alternative tool.
I respect your opinion, however I think it is a terribly oversimplified and naive perspective. If things were that simple then dating sites would never have come about or social networking sites, and if that happened then you and I would never have met nor any others that you may have become acquainted with through the internet who are not in an area where you can simply meet up with them for drinks or coffee. As I said before... it is the future and will not only help in terms of intimate relationships, but also in terms of global relations around the world. The trick is getting humans on the right track... a much more difficult task. How do you get humans (from ALL countries) to erase their color lines and see each other as equals? How do you get humans to erase the hate and embrace universal love? How do we get our fellow human beings to look at their own issues FIRST before blaming others for their situation?
BTW, a couple generations ago people would say that all of that socializing and "mingling" is a waste of time and you should focus on your schooling and studies and they would pick someone for you to date and marry... yeah, history repeats... you're of a generation that should embrace change not conform. Since when did your generation (and mine for that matter) become a generation of conformists?